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How has your child’s stuttering affected you?

The parent of a child who stutters may have many concerns and fears. Below are some articles that may help by providing inspiration and support for parents.

Parent’s Thoughts

Be open about your stuttering; talk about it, it’s ok. I don’t think of you any differently than my other kids who don’t stutter. You can be up front about your stuttering. Being open about it can help you and people you talk to. We really love you. Nothing is “broken” about you. People don’t always respond appropriately to your speeds when it’s bumpy, but you can let them know that it’s not easy sometimes to talk. I would love to talk to you openly. I only want you to communicate; I want you to be comfortable. Its ok to stutter, nobody’s speech is perfect all the time. What you have to say is important to me. I am listening. If someone gives you a tough time bout stuttering it’s because they don’t know. You need to educate them about it. I’m going to be there to support you. You’re not alone. You’re normal kids, and you stutter. We love you. It’s ok to stutter and that’s the way it is. Mother is so proud of you. I don’t care when the word would come out, it can be bumpy. You need to tell me what you need. How can I help you? You can have as much time as you need to say what you want to say. It takes courage to get up (in front of) the whole class and talk about stuttering. Nobody talks perfectly; everybody has fluent and disfluent moments. Speech is not the most important thing. It’s ok to stutter at home. You don’t need “to be...

How Stuttering Changed Our Lives

by Melanie Haiken By the time she was six years old, my daughter Linnea had almost stopped talking. Although she was one of the best students in her grade, she refused to raise her hand in class. When I drove a carpool full of loud, giggling girls chattering about their latest adventures, I’d be overwhelmed with despair as Linnea sat silently, unable to get her words out fast enough to be part of the flow of conversation. Stuttering is a mysterious speech disorder. What’s known now—but only recently accepted—is that stuttering is a neurological problem, a breakdown between the brain and the mechanisms of speech. It’s not psychological, and it’s not purely physical: Stuttering can’t be overcome simply by slowing down, taking deep breaths or any of the other advice parents of kids who stutter are constantly bombarded with. The Oscar-winning movie The King’s Speech focused national attention on stuttering and laid to rest some—though not all—of the misunderstandings and myths about stuttering and those who stutter. Linnea’s stutter is very much like that depicted so brilliantly by Colin Firth in the movie. Rather than the “Th-th-that’s all folks!” type of stutter made famous by Porky Pig, Linnea’s takes the form of “full blocks,” in which no sound comes out. When she tries to force her words past the block, her mouth grimaces, her face tenses and she sometimes moves her head to the side or back. These “secondary characteristics” are one of the most misunderstood aspects of stuttering. At one point a well-regarded neurologist actually diagnosed her as having a tic disorder and prescribed anti-seizure medication—failing to notice...

What Parents Want Their Kids to Know:

I want you to know that I love you endlessly. It is to know many times what you’re feeling I wish you would  be less protective I hope to be a successful in life as you when I grow up Thank you for helping me. I truly love you more than life itself I really don’t care if you stutter. I just don’t want you to care either. I am very proud of you I am more frustrated by your difficulty than you are at times because of how hard this is for you. He is the more frustrating joy of my life. A true thrill! I get nervous talking to you on the phone because I don’t know what to do when you block. L You are my hero and someone I would like to be like. I want you to know that I may not be the best parent at times, but it’t not your fault. I am sorry that I cam not always loving but I love you!! You are the most sensitive and humble child in all our family I accept you as you are Nothing worth while comes easy in life It’s ok if you stutter. I will still listen to you I am very proud of you- the courage you have! I don’t care that you stutter, or if you stutter for the rest of your stutter for the rest of your life. I only want you to be happy and confident with youself. You make us so proud. I love you no matter what! I love you who you are! Forever! I...

Wishes for Others – Denver

Dear Ian, I wish you were a millionaire! Plus cool hat! Also I wish you would never be bullied again. From, Evan Dear Wraith (chase), I hope you learn stuttering techniques. Your friend,Ian To: Ian honey badger Hope to be your captain next year and bring your shirt. Ryan Bliss From Liam: I wish Quinn lived next to me Seth lived close to me. Leslie had mansion From Ryan: I just wish I could stop stuttering, but that doesn’t matter. From Riley: I wish Grant would keep having fun. From Ryan: I wish that Friends would never end and I hope I come next year and each year gets better. I’ve seen your grandson with kids all weekend. He continued to grow and realized the gift he has in grandparents in you. From Allen: I wish to see your whole family at next year’s convention. I wish the schools and teachers would understand that Sonny is a very special kind hearted kid I wish you can realize that no matter how much we get on each other’s nerves it means a lot to me that you come to all these with me. I wish to be back next year. Chase- I hope you continue on your path to understanding and you can change the world one client at a time. I hope Jimmy has the chance to become the chef he has always wanted to be Clifford: I wish everybody here can have a great time at Friends. I wish that all the families who have not been fortunate enough to find Friends will do so and come and...

Wishes for Self – Denver

Parents: Meet new people and help others any way I can My  daughter will go to the group she is most comfortable in Young Adult or Teen. Help someone else or another family realize what I have and that stuttering is just another part of him. My best hope for this weekend is to learn to become more supportive of the person I love who stutters. For my family to form even deeper friendships. I hope I learn to be more patient when I am pressed for time and my son is having a “bad hair day.” Share hopes, dreams, and experiences with other parents and watch children grow and feel excited. I hope my son tries something uncomfortable to him (open mic, being on panel). I hope my son welcomes new people into the group. I hope to improve how to listen to a person who stutters. I hope my son leaves with renewed confidence. I hope to learn stronger patience with my son. I hope to learn how to help my son understand that there are also struggles that a parent goes through. To watch other kids grow as our boys did. Learning about different methods of therapy. Coping mechanisms for Sean in order to deal with ridicule from peers. Understanding some of the causes of triggers of stuttering. I hope that by reaching out to others both kids who stutter and, I can reach a deeper comfort with how to support my daughter in the life phase she is in right now. I hope Joe gets more comfortable with his stuttering and doesn’t let it stop...

Parent’s Thoughts

At the October 2008 Friends One Day Workshop in Iowa Friends, parents were asked for their thoughts on their child’s stuttering.

I am So Proud!!

For weeks, my daughter Ashlee, age 13, had been talking about doing a presentation on stuttering in front of her class or at an assembly, and I was getting more and more nervous. I was concerned about how her peers would respond, and I did not want her to be disappointed or hurt if it did not go as she expected.

Moments

Einstein, as well as other scientists, have given us the wonderful insight that time isn’t as fixed as we might have believed. It can, in fact, speed up and slow down, sometimes at perplexingly the most inopportune moments.

The Power of Listening

Trust has been described as the main component in any healthy relationship. Unfortunately, many therapeutic relationships are not built on trust and therefore growth is often limited (Luterman, 2001). In order to strengthen the client/clinician relationship, one must realize that building trust takes work.

A Parent Pledge

Because we recognize that parents need to become strong supporters of their children who stutter, and because we are advocates for our children, ensuring the right of each to become a strong confident and assertive individual who is allowed to achieve all he or she is capable of becoming….